Relationships Web Log Entries
Nora Ephron vs. Meg Ryan: What Is That We Love?
Posted: July 7, 2009 at 10:19 AM by Ben Nadel
For years, I really loved Meg Ryan. I still like her, of course, but when I was younger, I definitely held her on some sort of a pedestal. She stood out from the other actresses of her time as being just fun and adorable and super lovable. And for years, I just assumed it was all due to her inherent goodness. But like any actor, she's also made so... read more »
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Way Of The Peaceful Warrior - Living In The Moment, Letting Go Of The Future
Posted: January 11, 2009 at 9:16 PM by Ben Nadel
Last week, after I wrote about acting like a warrior , Charlie Griefer was thoughtful enough to send me a copy of the Peaceful Warrior starring Nick Nolte and Scott Mechlowicz. Thanks a lot Charlie, you rock hardcore ! I've seen this movie a couple of times before and was contemplating adding it to my DVD collection; so Charlie's timing could ... read more »
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The Way Of The Warrior And The Chance Not To Be Fired
Posted: January 6, 2009 at 12:03 PM by Ben Nadel
Over the last few weeks, an individual in my life has launched a serious campaign of hatred against me. These messages started out with simple feelings of discontent; but, over the last week or two, these feelings have escalated to extreme and very explicit feelings of hatred. I tried ignored all of these messages, hoping that the hatred would sim... read more »
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The Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz (Thanks Jason Kay)
Posted: December 4, 2008 at 10:08 AM by Ben Nadel
While I am still in the middle of Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance , I wanted to take a little time yesterday to listen to The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. This book was recommended to me a long time ago by Jason Kay. Shortly afterwards, I purchased a used copy of it at the Strand but never e... read more »
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Duckman Is My Sherpa
Posted: November 17, 2008 at 11:39 PM by Ben Nadel
Duckman was a loud, obnoxious, offensive, sexist, hate-filled, angry, neglectful, and self-centered duck detective. He was also one of my most influential mentors. I am not sure whether he so much taught me as much as he perhaps just helped me to codify some of my core beliefs; but either way, several epiphanies have been had crouched at his orang... read more »
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Intrinsic Goodness, Sex, Happiness, And Pleasure
Posted: November 11, 2008 at 9:24 AM by Ben Nadel
I was chatting the other day with my friend about his relationship. Apparently, he and the missus are having some friction because he desires intimacy more than she does. Naturally, this misalignment of desires is causing some frustration on both sides. I was trying to console my friend when he asked me, "How often do you need to have sex in a rel... read more »
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The Business Of Making Love
Posted: July 27, 2008 at 10:01 AM by Ben Nadel
I know that communication is one of, if not the most important aspects of a successful, long-term relationship. I know that. I believe that. So, why is it so hard to have open communication? In my relationships, why have I held back what I wanted to say? Why have I, time and time again, simply turned the other way when something was bothering me o... read more »
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Never Be Conflicted About Being Nice
Posted: March 10, 2008 at 3:10 PM by Ben Nadel
I know that this is not a technical post, but I don't have much technical to say today so I thought I would drop this in here. If for no other reason, it is a post to remind myself of my own beliefs (and therefore to follow them more closely). I just wanted to say that you should never be conflicted about being nice to someone. I have definitely h... read more »
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Kinky Solutions Valentine's Day Give Away
Posted: February 5, 2008 at 9:47 AM by Ben Nadel
I Thought Valentine's day would be a sweet excuse to give something away since I haven't done much of that in a while. And so, introducing the first ever annual Kinky Solutions Valentine's Day Give Away: The rules are simple. In the comments section below, post a comment that has ... read more »
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DNA Based Dating Service
Posted: December 17, 2007 at 8:39 AM by Ben Nadel
The other day, I happened upon this site, ScientificMatch.com , which is a dating service that finds compatible matches for you based on your DNA. As much as I want to believe in the mystical and spiritual aspects of love, anyone who has spent any time on one of the Discovery Channels knows that many aspects of love and attraction can be tied to ... read more »
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The Fine Art Of Small Talk By Debra Fine
Posted: December 3, 2007 at 2:14 PM by Ben Nadel
I am an introverted person. I am shy and quiet and I find I have a pretty good time just sitting back and listening to a group of people talk. This has been good for me, but it has also cut me off from a lot of things that life has to offer; I have declined invitations to events or get-togethers because of my fear of being in crowds and having to ... read more »
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Big Girls Like Me
Posted: August 25, 2007 at 4:04 PM by Ben Nadel
I am huge fan of people-watching and I tend to give everyone I pass on the sidewalk the "once over." I like to size everyone up and see what's interesting or attractive or weird or whatever about people... they are just really cool to look at; the human body is an amazing thing in both form and expression and in New York City especially, you reall... read more »
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Membership and First Donation to WNYC Radio
Posted: May 8, 2006 at 1:41 PM by Ben Nadel
I just became a member of the New York public radio station WNYC . It is their spring time pledge drive and I also made my first donation. Instead of making a really nice donation (as I am poor), I am making a small monthly donation for a long period of time. I love NPR and WNYC and I am proud to finally be in a financial position where I can sh... read more »
