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Recent Blog Comments By anna

  • The New - Same Content, Fresh New Look

    Posted on May 20, 2009 at 4:19 AM

    I like the new design. I may be missing something, or this may be my ignorance, but I can't seem to find the list of different topics on this one, though. I am sure that once I hit submit on this one, it will become immediately apparently to me and I will feel completely stupid. But I kind of mis... read more »

  • Date Addition Using CreateTimeSpan() Creates A Numeric Date

    Posted on May 20, 2009 at 4:08 AM

    my head. sorry. it's early...... read more »

  • Date Addition Using CreateTimeSpan() Creates A Numeric Date

    Posted on May 20, 2009 at 4:07 AM

    your comments to Anthony are insightful; I also would probably have just used dateAdd if I had come across the problem. But I'm not as experienced as you are. I think this is something programmers come across quite often...finding things that aren't new, but that they need to drill into their head... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Apr 15, 2009 at 6:32 PM

    @Mary Jo: I can see how cooking for/entertaining a large crowd could be stressful and exhausting! But I am glad it was a rewarding experience for you. I know what you mean, too, about cooking for only one. A lot of recipes aren't for just one, and I like following recipes to the T until I know t... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Apr 6, 2009 at 7:38 PM

    ha! I knew it! the image wouldn't post! after all that hard work! :-( oh well. I guess you'll just have to follow the link. lol.... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Apr 6, 2009 at 7:37 PM

    @Walt: Nice observation. I have noticed as well that really super-hot guys just don't do it for me hardly at all. If one walks by in a store, I may not even notice, unless he bumps into me or something, or somehow makes a point of saying something interesting. My girlfriends and I have talked ab... read more »

  • Intrinsic Goodness, Sex, Happiness, And Pleasure

    Posted on Apr 6, 2009 at 7:04 PM

    @Ben: That's ok. Yeah, I know it's good for elderly people to get fit, and it's never too late to *start* an exercise program. My point was you can't go your whole life sitting on the couch being a couch potato and then one day decide to get up and run a marathon. If you're older, it's likely go... read more »

  • Intrinsic Goodness, Sex, Happiness, And Pleasure

    Posted on Mar 30, 2009 at 6:06 PM

    @Ben: about the experiences, yes, I have been so very lucky. I still think that has a lot to do with the fact that I did not have sex during that time and was able to accomplish more because of it. A lot of people are having sex at the ripe old age of 16, and they are doing it often at that age. ... read more »

  • The Business Of Making Love

    Posted on Mar 30, 2009 at 5:55 PM

    @Ben: I think that if the person had that system, and it was some sort of requirement for a relationship, and the other person was totally and completely against it, yeah, that may be a sign that those two were not meant to be together. On the other hand, if you think something someone else is sug... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Mar 30, 2009 at 5:49 PM

    @Mary Jo: I think it seems to be a girl's thing, too, more so than a guy's thing for a guy to become less attractive and for less attractive guys to become more attractive due to personality. I think a lot of guys don't see it that way, or don't realize it. It seems that for guys, they'll put up ... read more »

  • The Business Of Making Love

    Posted on Feb 21, 2009 at 1:38 AM

    @Ben Relationships ARE emotional, and very few are logical. I am rather left-brained for a chick, but it's likely that most chicks are very right-brained. Most men are very left-brained. The total left-brained logical approach does not necessarily work in a relationship between two people when o... read more »

  • Intrinsic Goodness, Sex, Happiness, And Pleasure

    Posted on Feb 21, 2009 at 1:20 AM

    @Ben: Thank you for you responses. I always enjoy your well-thought-out replies. :-) My comments on the first thing. If it had been only a month or two or three, or even just a year, I could've accepted that maybe he was giving up the idea of having pleasure for himself for my happiness; howeve... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Feb 21, 2009 at 12:57 AM

    @MaryJo Yeah, I know. If someone on a "scale" above them, someone a lot more attractive than them turns them down, they belly ache and complain that the other person is shallow and that women shouldn't be so shallow. lol. But if you say something about THEM doing it, they make excuses for it...y... read more »

  • Intrinsic Goodness, Sex, Happiness, And Pleasure

    Posted on Feb 17, 2009 at 11:28 PM

    My answer to this question, if posed to me would be: before marriage, never. After marriage...all the time! I grew up thinking that having sex before marriage wasn't a good thing. I was raised to believe this. I went to college where most of the students there believed the same, and I was still... read more »

  • The Fine Art Of Small Talk By Debra Fine

    Posted on Feb 17, 2009 at 10:13 PM

    I would consider myself to be an extrovert. I have always been an extrovert, and I am happy with that. I don't think everyone necessarily changes between the two, as I have only been one way my whole life. There are some things about extroverts that you have to learn in order to get along or to k... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Feb 17, 2009 at 9:51 PM

    @Mary Jo: Yeah, I agree with you on the men who don't take very good care of themselves or don't try hardly at all to make themselves more attractive. There are other things too, for instance bad breath and body odor for men. That can really cut down on one's ability to be attracted to that perso... read more »

  • The Business Of Making Love

    Posted on Feb 17, 2009 at 6:16 PM

    hmmmm....the formula/framework for the relationship seems a bit stiff for a relationship. While it is good you are recognizing a particular trait that could be improved may not be something that would best be solved by a rigid formula. Often, logical men see in terms of b... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Feb 17, 2009 at 11:51 AM

    @Mary Jo: I know, really smart people with high IQ's really do dumb things sometimes!!! :-) Trust me, I have done my share! Sometimes so much that people don't even recognize that I am smart! Sheesh!!! :-) @Ben: You're right...looks do matter just a bit, though. I tried dating someone who w... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Feb 1, 2009 at 10:53 AM

    @Ben: wow, that was a nice analysis! Thanks! I like that perception of what's going on here much better than the assumption my co-workers made, trying to simplify it when they called me a "narcissist". lol I do admit I have some narcissistic tendencies. It's true that I find myself to ... read more »

  • Big Girls Like Me

    Posted on Jan 31, 2009 at 1:30 PM

    this is an interesting post. I have a few comments/suggestions. First, I think you are right on with the thing about being attracted to people who are attracted or seem attracted to you. My biggest problem with this method so far has been me mis-reading guys attraction to me or level of attractio... read more »

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